Understanding bullying and mental health
Bullying is a pervasive issue that affects many students in Australia, and its impact can be devastating. As a community, it’s crucial that we work together to address bullying and mental health in our schools. By fostering awareness and understanding, we can create a safer and more inclusive environment for all students.
What bullying is and is not
Bullying is defined as repeated aggressive behaviour that intentionally harms another individual. It can manifest in various forms, including physical (hitting, pushing), verbal (name-calling, threats), social (exclusion, spreading rumours), and cyberbullying (harassment through digital platforms). Importantly, bullying is not simply a conflict or disagreement between peers; it is characterised by a power imbalance where the bully seeks to control or intimidate the victim. Understanding this distinction is essential for identifying and addressing bullying effectively.
The effects of bullying can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety and depression, which can have long-lasting impacts on a child’s wellbeing.
Signs of bullying
Changes in behaviour: sudden shifts in mood, withdrawal from friends, or reluctance to go to school.
Physical signs: unexplained injuries, loss of appetite, lost belongings, or coming home with new, unexplained items.
Academic decline: decreased interest in school, slipping grades, or frequent absences.
Emotional indicators: increased sadness, anxiety, or irritability.
Recognising mental distress
Mental health is just as vital as physical health. Mission Australia found that almost three in 10 (28.8%) young people indicated high psychological distress and almost one-quarter (23.5%) felt lonely all or most of the time. More than half (53.4%) have needed support with their mental health at some point in their life.
Signs of mental distress can manifest in various ways, including:
Changes in sleep patterns: difficulty sleeping or excessive sleeping.
Loss of interest: withdrawal from activities they once enjoyed.
Low energy or fatigue: persistent feelings of exhaustion.
Feelings of hopelessness: expressions of worthlessness or disconnection from reality.
Practical tips for parents
Good mental health is a powerful force in our children’s lives. It enables our youth to think, feel, act and interact in positive ways, and this kind of resilient headspace has benefits both in the moment, and over the long-term. Your child’s mental health is bolstered by your love and support, and Raising Children suggests there are many ways to make children feel cherished, encouraged and happy through daily interactions. As a parent, your involvement is key to supporting your child’s mental health – here are some practical steps you can take:
Share loving words and actions: This means telling your child that you love them, no matter what, and using body language and non-verbal communication for reinforcement.
Open communication: Make time to talk and listen to your child every day. Family life is busy, but if your child wants to talk, you’re encouraged to stop what you’re doing (if possible), and give them your full attention. Create a safe space for your child to share their feelings and experiences (the car is a great place as they don’t need to make eye contact). Encourage them to talk about their day and listen without judgment.
Educate about bullying: Teach your child what bullying is (and is not), and encourage them to speak up if they witness or experience it. Resources like the Bullying. No Way! website provide valuable information.
Know the signs: Be vigilant for behavioural changes. If you notice something off, don’t hesitate to ask your child about it.
Encourage friendships: Help your child build strong relationships with peers. Invite friends over or engage in community activities where they can meet others.
Promote mental wellness: Encourage healthy habits such as exercise, hobbies, and mindfulness practices. Discuss the importance of seeking help when feeling overwhelmed.
Seek professional help: If you notice significant changes in your child’s mood or behaviour, consider consulting your GP or a mental health professional. Early intervention can make a significant difference. Reach out to services like Kids Helpline for support.
Work with schools: Collaborate with your child’s school to understand their anti-bullying policies. Resources like the National Day of Action against Bullying and Violence provide information on school initiatives.
Building a supportive community
Preventing bullying and supporting mental health is a collective effort. Schools, parents, and students must work together to create an environment where everyone feels safe and valued. Here are some ways you can contribute:
Participate in awareness campaigns: Engage in school programs that focus on bullying prevention and mental health awareness.
Model empathy: Demonstrate kindness and respect in your interactions. Children learn by observing the adults in their lives.
Be an ally: If you see someone being bullied, stand up for them or encourage others to do the same. Every act of kindness counts.
Addressing bullying and supporting mental health in our schools is essential for creating a positive environment for all students. By fostering open communication, educating ourselves and our children, and building supportive networks, we can make a lasting impact in the lives of our youth.
At All Saints Grammar we come together as a community to help ensure that every child feels safe, heard, and valued, cultivating a culture of kindness and understanding that empowers every child to thrive. We run regular workshops in conjunction with police and other external providers to ensure mental health education is prioritised as part of our comprehensive pastoral program.
To learn more about All Saints Grammar, and how our excellent co-education for students from Pre-K to Year 12 might benefit your child, book a tour.
Resources
Support is available through Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636, Lifeline on 13 11 14, Sane on 1800 187 263, and Dolly’s Dream on 0488 881 033.
